When is it OK to get angry ?

Read an interesting study on recent HBR. It is a detailed study on the characteristics that help someone become successful in today world.

Be it public life, corporate life or family life.

And, as opposed to what we all would believe, the so called "cool" heads don't actually make it to the Top. Given everything else same.

Statistically seen, people who once in a while blow their top, are the one's who grow up.

Now, be careful here - the ones who go crazy all the time, don't even make it to the mix.

Its the creme of the creme population - and mostly consist of people who are cool and unfazed on the face of challenge and tough time. Among, these set the one who expressed emotions from "Anger / frustrations bucket once in a while" are the one who get bump-ups more than the "always unfazed" ones.

And one of the key analysis is, "always unfazed, cool exterior, portrays a less ambitious or more complacent person.

Now, definitely it brings up the point - when can one afford to show that "frustration", get "angry" ?

Betaal's take is - when one is in control and the aggression is a mere display, well calculated one. Used mainly as a controlled weapon to stir up the scene, but enacted naturally. A deterrence to blocking and detrimental behavior by others for an ultimate goal one is convinced about.

One can show the anger and frustration - but can never lose control on own mind !

So, the inner cool is not disturbed. The display of aggression is merely and act and a tool of expressing urgency.

Lord Krishna once during the war of Kurukhsetra did get angry and picked up the wheel of a chariot ! And, indeed it was an ACT and essential part to get to the ultimate goal he had in his mind.

One of the executives I know, used to have these "Whining sessions" with Betaal every once in a while. It is a 30 mins session, where the person whining would go all the way out letting out his frustration, pulling hair, using language otherwise prohibited, being personal and exhibiting all NO-NOs of the bible of greatness ! And right at 30mins, time is up ! Put back the cool shades and back to work !